Love Aaj Kal!

I don't know why am I writing this but over the last few days so many things happened around me with my friends that I was getting frustrated!

The concept of romance these days...

Disinterest, WIL, Obsession, Opposition, & Demolition and in some cases - LOVE!

- DISINTEREST

I was out with my friends for a tea on FC road, when a couple caught our eyes. The girl walked ahead of that 'Champu' boy confidently on her high heels and the boy struggled through the crowd trying to chase her with a foolish smile on his face. I suddenly remember the song 'Ban gaya Kutta' from 'Pyaar ka Panchnama'. This I would call as 'Chasing Girlfriend Disorder' or CGD.

Then there are some spots in every city, reserved for love-birds specializing in PDA. But if you observe closely, you will find the girl is distracted or looking elsewhere, playing with her mobile [most of the times] or sometimes even catches you looking at her. And this happens when she is NOT interested in the guy but for some reason she still hangs out with him. Then there are boys who keep on using a girl, flirt with her, hang out with her but when it comes to commitment he just vanishes away!

- WAIT IN LINE

My friend sent a text to his friend and asked her out for a coffee. She in turn answered him back 

'Wait kar yaar!Bohot log line me hai abhi' [There's a long queue for that] He lost his cool and back fired ' Mujhe lagta tha tera kuch standard hai...But tu toh har kisi ke saath coffee pe chali jati! '

[I thought you had some standards set for yourself. But it seems you go after every rookie who asks you for a coffee! ]

She could have simply said 'NO'. Why make a display of ego?

- OBSESSION

I recall an incident wherein one of my childhood friends had become obsessed with her girl-friend and the only thing he wanted to have back then was her. She was one of those kinds who kept on blaming him for things - 'You hurt me', 'You don't understand' 'Don't contact me hereafter' and all bull shit!

She was not attending his calls or replying to his texts so he asked me to talk to her and narrate her some message he had sent to me. I dialed her number and tried talking to her, read her the message and asked if she really wanted to continue with him or not. And what came thereafter was an utter shock. She yelled at me, abused me, screamed non-sense and hung up the call. When I tried explaining the situation back to my friend he replied in a low voice that she might have had been low and hence she did not speak properly! WTF! 

I yelled on him like no tomorrow! I wanted him to get rid of her ASAP! I still remember how loud I was, every one around the building stopped their work to understand what happened and both my roomies who were fast asleep came out running. Fortunately after sometime he moved on and now he is much happier & relaxed than earlier.  

-OPPOSITION

I had been to Nasik a few days ago and there I came to know that one of my friends from the high-school had eloped with his girl-friend. From various sources his parents came to know that they had married each-other through court-registry. Now that might sound like Ishaqzaade-2 but as a matter of fact, this decision of theirs could take an ugly turn. I'm saying this because the guy is extremely hot headed, he is still hunting for a job, he is low on budget, they don't have any place to stay and most importantly he now has his wife to look after. 

Falling in love is a great thing, to live with your beloved is a blessing but in the pursuit of these things he has taken a dangerous step. And he had to do so because none of their families were agreeing for the marriage just because of some stupid battle of egos. 

Now when things have gone out of hands their parents say that they are ready to accept their marriage. Had they talked to their kids earlier keeping their egos aside things would have been better and easier for every one. I still don't understand why these elders simply rule out the choice their kid makes without even trying to understand what he/she really wants! 

- DEMOLITION

Then there's one female friend of mine who wants to marry some a guy who doesn't belong to his caste but has everything a girl would want to have in his life partner. A promising job, security, good family backgroud and everything. But her parents NEGLECT every aspect of those qualities and stick to just one totally impractical point - 'Wo hamare caste ka nahi hai! Teri usse shaadi kara di toh log kya kahenge! ' [ He doesn't belong to our caste. If we agree to get you married the society would boycott us!] 

On top of that when she demanded some RATIONAL reason she was told 'Crime Patrol me dekha nahi kya! Agar wo aisa kare tere saath to!' [Didn't you watch the crime patrol! What if he does the same with you'  To this crap I want to pose just one question, what if the guy her parents chose start abusing her or torture her for dowry?  At that time they would ask her to keep mum and agree to all his demands so that the same society should not blame them for their choice! 

I am not saying any of the cases is impossible but why to reject someone for some orthodox mindset or some spice-mixed daily soap and without actually trying to look out for facts!

Its downright irritating to see couples getting cheesy every-where and running away from each-other when it comes to commitment & its even more irritating to see when the couple is actually willing to walk an extra mile to keep each other happy people around them screw things up. 

No one knows what's going to happen with my friends and why these things happened at the first place!  But I have definitely learnt two things from them -

Not to take decisions too fast and never stop till you get what you want. Eloping or revolting might not be the solution every time but punching your neighbor who keeps poking his nose in your love-life might help you calm down or getting rid of someone who doesn't bother for you can help you a lot!  Whatever you do, whomever you truly like make sure that your decisions are sound and you don't end up chasing some one foolishly or end up screwing your priced relations!

Cheers!